- Justine's general complaint - Jim is picky - Justine is anxious about being corrected - Jim's general complaint - Justine's low effort to understand my rationale or contribution to our shared rationale - Examples - start with small entre to incentivize nutrition - catalyst: Many weeks in a row I would clean plates with barely touched fruit and vegetables - problem: kids are filling up on entre and not getting good nutrition - solution: start with small portions of breakfast entre. Kids can have more after eating everything. - Justine's concerns: - kids won't eat enough - easier food prep to reduce morning stress - catalyst: mornings are tough - problem: food prep taking too much time/effort in mornings - solution: develop nutritious easily prepared foods - justine's concern: ? - kids morning jobs = dress, fed, car seat - catalyst: mornings are tough - problem: - kids over dependence on adults - justine over functioning doing kids jobs - solution: kids build habits that get themselves ready without parental intervention - main: fed, dress, car seat - getting dressed before going downstairs - eating breakfast before playing - putting dishes away - buckling themselves in car seat - future - charlie brushing her hair - getting sunscreen on (seasonal) - cooking breakfast (maybe)