This Reset Timer protocol is particularly well-suited for Theo based on the patterns visible in your family records. Looking at the December 27-January 4 entries, we see Theo consistently shows strong justice-oriented emotional responses but also demonstrates capacity for emotional awareness and independent regulation when given the `right structure`. This approach helps Theo by combining `physical expression` (showing feeling size with hands) with `clear and predictable consequences` allowing him to maintain dignity while regulating his emotions. Rather than ~~forcing compliance~~ or creating ~~power struggles~~, the 5-minute timer gives him `agency` over when to engage while maintaining the expectation that the situation needs to be addressed. From his documented responses to TV transitions and sibling conflicts, we can see Theo benefits from having clear next steps and time to process. The protocol respects his need for space during high activation moments while preventing the complete avoidance of difficult emotions or situations. Importantly, it also aligns with his demonstrated ability to "express feelings openly" (noted January 4) and his growing capacity for "developing coping strategies" (noted as a growth opportunity). By providing consistent, calm opportunities to engage rather than escalating through control measures, this approach supports Theo's development of emotional regulation skills while maintaining family boundaries.
```mermaid
flowchart TD
Start[Big Feelings] --> Engage[Engagement Steps]
subgraph Engage[Engage Attempt]
MeasureFeelings[1. Show me how big your feelings are] -->
Connect[2. connect with compassion kindness]
end
Engage --> Response{Child's Response?}
Response -->|Engages| CalmTalk[Calm Conversation<br>2-minute timer]
Response -->|Refuses/Flight| Timer[Set 5-minute timer]
Timer --> Engage
CalmTalk --> Complete[When timer ends,<br>transition to next activity]
style Start fill:lightgreen,stroke:#333,color:#000
style MeasureFeelings fill:mediumOrchid,stroke:#333,color:#000
style Connect fill:lightpink,stroke:#333,color:#000
style Response fill:mediumaquamarine,stroke:#333,color:#000
style Timer fill:indianred,stroke:#333,color:#000
style CalmTalk fill:aquamarine,stroke:#333,color:#000
style Complete fill:cyan,stroke:#333,color:#000
```