```mermaid flowchart TD A[Prompt] A -->C[Support] C -->E[Regulation] E --> A ``` - pause ~10 seconds between any transition #### Why - **Problem**: Parents get frustrated during routines because they don't know what to do when kids don't comply, leading to escalation, control battles, or giving up on expectations. - **Solution:** A predetermined script that removes all decision-making in the moment. You never have to improvise or wonder "what do I do now?" - just follow the flowchart with kindness. ##### Benefits - **Eliminates parent frustration** - You always know the next step - **Maintains expectations** - Tasks still get completed - **Respects kid autonomy** - They choose their level of support needed - **Builds data without judgment** - Scoring shows patterns over time #### Morning Routine | Step | Prompt Wording | Support Options | | --------- | -------------------------------------- | ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | | **Wake** | "Time to start our day" | <ol><li>Gently help out of bed with blanket</li><li>Remove blanket and ask "what did you dream about?"</li></ol> | | **Dress** | "Time to pick clothes and get dressed" | <ol><li>Lay out clothes</li><li>Get shirt over head and pants started</li></ol> | | **Fed** | "Time for breakfast" | <ol><li>"Can I help feed you?"</li></ol> | | **Go** | "Time to go" | <ol><li>Take hand and guide to the door</li></ol> | #### Evening Routine | Step | Prompt Wording | Support Options | | --------- | ------------------------------------------- | --------------------------------------------------------------------- | | **Clean** | "Time to clean up" | <ol><li>"Let's start with ..."</li><li>Clean alongside them</li></ol> | | **Wash** | "Time to head upstairs and wash our bodies" | <ol><li>Start water</li><li>Help undress</li></ol> | | **Dress** | "Time to get dressed" | <ol><li>Lay out pull up</li><li>Get pull up started</li></ol> | | **Teeth** | "Time to clean teeth" | <ol><li>Put toothpaste on brush</li></ol> | | **Sleep** | "Time to sleep" | <ol><li>Place in bed</li><li>Quietly dote on them</li></ol> | #### Regulation Options **Regulation Script:** "Does your body need calm, excitement, or connection?" [Pause 10 seconds] "I'm guessing [pick one]. We'll try to do the task again in a couple minutes." | Type | Activities to Offer | | -------------- | --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | | **Calm** | <ul><li>Tell a story</li><li>Guided meditation</li><li>Listen to slow song</li><li>Read a page</li><li>Write a note</li><li>Build small lego creation</li></ul> | | **Excitement** | <ul><li>Play slaps</li><li>Dance to a song</li><li>20 jumping jacks</li><li>Tag</li><li>Tickle</li></ul> | | **Connection** | <ul><li>Snuggle</li><li>"What I love about you"</li><li>"Earlier today I was thinking"</li></ul> | #### Scoring For each step of a routine, a child gets the following points - 5: Self-initiated - 3: After prompt - 2: After support - 1: Needed regulation (completed after) - 0: Didn't complete