[[content#Influence|influence]], [[content#Transformative|transformative]], [[content#Complexity|complexity]], [[content#State|state]] - societal overhaul - victimized women believe men should stop being monsters victim/perpetrator - systematic problem - define [[sexual predation]] - institutional / cultural relationship management - sexual repression of Victorian society combatting predation. Women were not equals, but a protected class - rapists are still considered villains #counterPoint - incel: I am owed female attention - what fundamental changes do men need to make - toxic courtship... - what men get from women -> and can do more of for women you - motherly relationship - mental health stability - caretaking - comfort - "I could not live without my wife" - female support networks are superior than men's #doubt - Men can - be more nurturing - when was the last time your male friend held you while you cried? I've never had a friend hold me while I cried 1) I don't cry that often -> that's not to say I'm not vulnerable to male friends (Joseph, you, isaac) 2) when I am moved to cry it is from exasperation often caused by tension in relationships deeper than friendship (spouse, parent). So a kind of fix what you break mentality. 3) when I'm in a highly emotional state that could lead to crying, I'm going to my most supportive relationship, which as a heterosexual male is a female. - become a domestic man - be a true partner - take care of home - cook - parent - strengthen mental health - look inward - improve self regulation - be more independent and helpful -> can still interact most of the time, but with less dependence - less dependence = more joy in a relationship? - element of the body - transcend humanity to become more moral being - define [[transhuman]] - cultivation of the self - institutions - the reduction in single income family are pushing equality - the ills in society create pressure that pushes on the other ills in our society - is this true for internal ills? Which personal issues exacerbate vs. improve other personal issues? - create communities of trust -> micro society - justine exists in a secure environment - I trust my neighbors so I feel safe in my community - I live in a community of virtuous humans - believing all men are a mortal threat is not a winning strategy when the population men is 50% - what percent of humans are virtuous? (John) - how does our mind make the forest darker? (John) - what percent of people are born into a state of privilege? (John) - females level of anxiety is unjustifiable regardless of the consequences ### Claude - [[how is sexual predation a systemic problem - question]]