I accept people to understand them. I understand people so they can understand themselves. I help people understand themselves to live my ### Jim - checkout the offerings I'm imagining here. It's fairly full spectrum life coaching. https://jimr.fyi/area/business/chaperone/chap+golden+circle#How+service+offerings - Something much more specific that might be very niche is `Second Brain Coaching` - Something unique I might provide is the community aspect, where a client might find great benefit from an open/respectful discussion within a community, 1:1 -> group guided trips -> community building - I'm considering `self paced modules`, group coaching, 1:1 coaching, guided trips, build a platform for `real time personal dashboard` for the metrics you care about - regarding, mental health vs. spiritual. I see this as goal-focused perspective giving aligned with the `individuals definition of flourishing`, but a lot of people don't have a foundation to focus on goals, because of issues rooted in mental health. I'm not going to help a seriously mentally ill person, but I can probably handle a lot of the anxiety related stuff. - I had a recent conversation where someone relayed a sexual assault and they made it clear this is something they needed to frame in a comedic way, I was able to listen and give feedback mirroring their comedic portrayal of the situation. I think sometimes people just need to talk to someone. - explain a little more about attaching cultural context - btw, I feel so much better having worked on this before it was due on Thursday. So thank you for the sharp pivot. ### John - Gotchya. That seems much clearer now. `Goal focused coaching with a community focus`. - Specifically, teaching techniques put oneself `in tune with your own needs` and the needs of those around you to develop `fulfilling goals` with `achievable plans of action`. We then foster and create communities of action which connect and empower likeminded people. - This has always felt about more than individual therapy meets personal management training. The crisis of modernity links the alleviation of individual suffering to the strength of communal support. That's why our efforts in Chap are so intrinsically linked to the idea of micro-society. Work on the individual eventually necessitates demands work on the communal. - Seems pretty well defined to me. The only concern I would really have is that we make sure not to assist with building hate groups but honestly I think some basic community guidelines could solve that easy. - I'd like to understand more about the historical path from community building to hate groups to know what signs to watch for, but I can't foresee this being an issue. That's what I need your pessimism to curtail my optimism. - to the point of hate groups, I believe another core concept of micro-society is acceptance. I've added it here https://jimr.fyi/area/village+living/core+concepts+-+village+living - Haha. No worries on the pivot. I too can chase my own tail till dark so discourse disruptions are really the only I realign my brain. lol. ### John 2 - Hahaha. Well I'm glad you are excited to work as a team. I like to think I have been pretty honest with you regarding my strengths / weaknesses as well as my personal goals. If you say I am a key player in this plan, I will do my best to contribute. I am at a point in life where I need to take every opportunity I can if I stand a chance of changing my circumstances. - You have a very strong sense of what you want. Is it fair to articulate that as family and community? You want to help others learn and grow? - I need to ensure the benefit of our relationship is not 1 sided. - Love the mantra. The last sentence is a bit unclear to me. "I help people to understand themselves to live my 'why'" - Let me put my Why in there - I accept people to understand them. I understand people so they can understand themselves. I help people understand themselves to alleviate aimless suffering, so individuals empowered and at peace can nurture their potential and live authentically - Would this mean that guiding self actualization is your purpose in life? - I squeamishly agree. Self actualization is so quantifiably dubious I haven't found an effective way to engage with the concept. If we all collectively agreed on the standard characteristics of self actualization, I'd feel more comfortable using the term. To take a shot at it I'd say: mindfulness, self control, agency, growth mindset, purpose. - I did also love your point regarding the distinction between CHAP vs. traditional therapeutic models. "The crisis of modernity necessitates healing of community to address the needs of the individual." Stuff gives me goosebumps. lol. - Chap is a bottom up approach, nurture people to peace and empowerment -> build community -> micro society -> change the world - starting at micro-society would be a top down approach and I think substantially harder. The two approaches could effectively exist in nascency together, but chap as a seed for micro society makes more sense to me.